For instance, last year, my husband and I hosted or helped with parties of all different sizes.  One night in the middle of the summer we decided we wanted to BBQ and wanted some friends to join us.  It was a last minute thing and we asked our friends to BYOB (bring your own beef) and a side dish for all to share.  We had about 14 people show up (on a Tuesday!) and had a great time.  We also threw a more organized, larger party for my sons first birthday (more on that later).

No matter the size,  the time or money, you can have a great party so long as you have a reason and reasonable expectations.

Picking your reason:  Do you want to have a birthday party for yourself, a family member or a friend?  Are you throwing a Bridal or Baby Shower?  Are you wanting to have friends over and just have a good time?  Do you want to have a tea with some women?  Are you having a Super Bowl party?  Pick a reason and that will give you the direction and focus you need to see your party through until the end.

Reasonable Expectations:  Realize that about 10% of the people who RSVP they are coming probably won’t make it.  If people don’t RSVP, expect that they won’t make it.  Take into account that adults eat more then kids (I can’t tell you how much this helps!  I have done a few parties and did a head count not figuring this in…let’s just say there was money spent that could have been saved or used elsewhere and we were eating leftovers for some time!)  Things are not always going to go as planned.  Be flexible!  The most important thing is that you and your guests have a good time.  The other stuff is just filler.  People don’t know what you do and don’t have planned so if something doesn’t make it out, don’t freak.  They have no idea!

The biggest reason that you should have for throwing a party?  To have a good time!  That’s it.  If you are not going to enjoy it, don’t waste your time and money. It makes no sense.  Just take your child to something that you can both enjoy or your spouse to a nice dinner.  No one likes a grouchy host/hostess.

If you decide that you want to have a great party on a budget, this is the place for you!

Greg stole my blog idea for Murphy and God fighting, so I decided to write it anyway but in a different way.

Last month we had over $1900 dollars of expected/unexpected expenses come up. We thought that we could budget some of it in (and did) but some of it was just unforeseen expenses. Yes, we do Dave Ramsey so we have our minor emergency fund in place, however, we hate digging into that money. It leaves you feeling vulnerable for those few weeks that you are trying to build that money back up again. In addition, the expenses were more then our emergency fund.

To top all of that off, we are due to have our first baby in 8 weeks and currently have a crib (no mattress) and dresser (thank you Greg’s mom Rhonda and step dad Steve!), a few diapers, a few toys, and some baby wipes. Granted, we haven’t had a shower yet, but it still makes you nervous knowing that you have a LOT of bills and need to buy things for the baby. What makes you especially nervous, is knowing that you have made a commitment not to go back into debt so it is NOT an option. Needless to say, I’ve been trying to work a few extra hours to make a little extra money, but also because I plan to leave the office at the end of April and need to finish some things there

Little did I know that God had other plans and showed up to what I thought would be really really TIGHT few months. I am humbly reminded once again what a great God we serve. He continually provides for us and is patient with me and my worry.

Below you will find an itemized list of expenses and how God took care of them all.

New Crown for Shannon’s tooth- 945.90
Doctor’s Bills- 118.41
Doola- 250.00
KGB-ahem-sorry, that was the IRS- 353.00
Travel for Greg- 65.00
Unexpected car trouble (the water pump needed replacing)- 64.94
Travel for a wedding- 100.00
Unexpected phone expense- 25.00
Other random things you tend to forget to budget for 50.00

A God who provides for His children and sends random checks to your house with your name on them that amount to over 1100.00- PRICELESS

There are some things money can’t buy. For everything else there’s God.